CARING FOR THE INNER CHILD
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Linda Baker is a registered nurse with a private practice near Seattle, WA and has worked in the field of mental health for over 20 years. After discovering Alchemical Hypnosis and its effectiveness in treating emotional illness, she went on to train and become an Alchemical Hypnotherapist herself. In the following article Linda shares an "inner child rescue mission" experience with one of her clients.
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When my husband and I brought our first foster child home, even though he was six-foot-two and sixteen years old, he soon made a spontaneous regression into early childhood and we did extensive reparenting with him. This was not planned, it just happened and the effects were amazing. For the first time I was really able to see how the programming of childhood affects us and can control how we are and how changing this programming can free us to discover our true selves. As we continued our work with foster children I became increasingly excited about the potential of the reparenting process. The biggest drawback was that the process was difficult and lengthy. That all changed when I discovered Alchemical Hypnosis.
With Alchemical Hypnotherapy I discovered a new way to help my clients relive their childhoods and re-parent themselves, with a considerable saving of time and energy.
Rescuing the Inner Child
This client came to me with these issues, "I don't like myself. I don't feel worthy enough for anyone to care about me. I don't feel that life is worth living." Typically, he expressed fear of looking inside and contacting his inner child. Often the pain of childhood is blocked out by locking the child away it can be scary to imagine letting him or her out again. To help ease these fears I let him know that (1) protecting this pain only gives it greater power in our lives; (2) in the process of Alchemical Hypnosis, FEELING the pain is only a part of the process. HEALING of the pain to regain inner strength and freedom is the more powerful part of the process.
This client had several traumatic experiences come up during his sessions. I have chosen this particular scene to illustrate the process.
Client: I see a room. It's a room in my old house. I'm sitting on the floor cutting and pasting something out of paper.
Therapist: About how old are you?
Client: I'm seven. It's after the divorce.
Therapist: You can allow yourself to be this little seven year old boy and see what happens.
Client: The door is opening. It's my mother. She just got home from work and she's mad at me. She's screaming at me.
Therapist: Let's hear what she's saying. Let her talk directly to this little boy.
Client: You're always making a mess! You never do anything right! I'm tired of cleaning up this house! I wish you would just go to your room and leave me alone!
Therapist: What would you like to say to her?
Client: Nothing. I'm too scared. She might hit me.
Therapist: Maybe you'd like to bring your adult self down here with you. What would your adult self like to say to your mother?
Client: "That's no way to treat a little boy just because you're tired! You're his mother! He needs to be loved! You're not fit to be his mother! Leave him alone! "(Screams) I just want to take him out of this house (tears).
Therapist: Where would you like to go with him?
Client: We're sitting in a field by a pond!
Therapist: (Giving the client a soft pillow) Here's your little child. Maybe you'd like to tell him that he is a good little boy and deserves to be loved and cared for, and to play and have fun.
Client: I love you (tears), you're a good boy and you deserve to be loved even if you make a mess. You deserve to have someone to love you and play with you.
Therapist: What does your little child say?
Client: I want you to love and protect me. (Adult client says:) I love you and I will take care of you.
Therapist: Now each day you can spend a few minutes with your little child letting him know that he is loved and cared for.
Here the client has accessed an incident that contributed to his feelings of low self-worth. He felt the pain and went on to heal the incident by releasing stored anger buried under guilt and depression. He understood that his mother could not meet his needs and that he could love his own inner child by giving it the appropriate message for growth, changing it from the, "You are not loved or even lovable" into, "You are lovable, and I love you!".
This client had been angry and resentful of any children he saw playing. He was in a state of depression where he could not allow himself to have fun (because of the guilt, and fear of not being loved), and thus saw life as not being worth living. Changing the message his inner child receives to, "You are lovable and you deserve to play and be loved," has affected his life in two major ways; (1) he is now able to take time and have fun, allowing himself to feel good about it; and (2) he is now able to relate to children in a positive manner devoid of the hostility of the past, allowing them to have fun too.
Other clients who don't feel equipped to nurture their own inner child can discover inner parents within the subconscious to assist them in the joyful process of nurturing the inner child, and to be a loving parent to the adult self as well.
After my many years of working in the field of mental health and seeing the frustration of so many due to not being able to let go of past patterns and feelings, I am delighted and excited to be involved with Alchemical Hypnotherapy.
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This client had several traumatic experiences come up during his sessions. I have chosen this particular scene to illustrate the process.
Client: I see a room. It's a room in my old house. I'm sitting on the floor cutting and pasting something out of paper.
Therapist: About how old are you?
Client: I'm seven. It's after the divorce.
Therapist: You can allow yourself to be this little seven year old boy and see what happens.
Client: The door is opening. It's my mother. She just got home from work and she's mad at me. She's screaming at me.
Therapist: Let's hear what she's saying. Let her talk directly to this little boy.
Client: You're always making a mess! You never do anything right! I'm tired of cleaning up this house! I wish you would just go to your room and leave me alone!
Therapist: What would you like to say to her?
Client: Nothing. I'm too scared. She might hit me.
Therapist: Maybe you'd like to bring your adult self down here with you. What would your adult self like to say to your mother?
Client: "That's no way to treat a little boy just because you're tired! You're his mother! He needs to be loved! You're not fit to be his mother! Leave him alone! "(Screams) I just want to take him out of this house (tears).
Therapist: Where would you like to go with him?
Client: We're sitting in a field by a pond!
Therapist: (Giving the client a soft pillow) Here's your little child. Maybe you'd like to tell him that he is a good little boy and deserves to be loved and cared for, and to play and have fun.
Client: I love you (tears), you're a good boy and you deserve to be loved even if you make a mess. You deserve to have someone to love you and play with you.
Therapist: What does your little child say?
Client: I want you to love and protect me. (Adult client says:) I love you and I will take care of you.
Therapist: Now each day you can spend a few minutes with your little child letting him know that he is loved and cared for.
Here the client has accessed an incident that contributed to his feelings of low self-worth. He felt the pain and went on to heal the incident by releasing stored anger buried under guilt and depression. He understood that his mother could not meet his needs and that he could love his own inner child by giving it the appropriate message for growth, changing it from the, "You are not loved or even lovable" into, "You are lovable, and I love you!".
This client had been angry and resentful of any children he saw playing. He was in a state of depression where he could not allow himself to have fun (because of the guilt, and fear of not being loved), and thus saw life as not being worth living. Changing the message his inner child receives to, "You are lovable and you deserve to play and be loved," has affected his life in two major ways; (1) he is now able to take time and have fun, allowing himself to feel good about it; and (2) he is now able to relate to children in a positive manner devoid of the hostility of the past, allowing them to have fun too.
Other clients who don't feel equipped to nurture their own inner child can discover inner parents within the subconscious to assist them in the joyful process of nurturing the inner child, and to be a loving parent to the adult self as well.
After my many years of working in the field of mental health and seeing the frustration of so many due to not being able to let go of past patterns and feelings, I am delighted and excited to be involved with Alchemical Hypnotherapy.
>>Back To Heal Your Relationships
